time

does it matter how long you've been with that person?

OR

do the depths of your feelings matter more?

...

Many ppl have argued this issue with me previously.. they say it doesn't matter how long you've been with that person, but how much you feel.

Think about this logically, shall we?

You meet this great guy. Been together for 2 months, and he proposes. You flip over, scream with delight, call all your girlfriends you're getting married... and you convince yourself that time doesn't matter at all. You LOVE this guy so damn much. He loves you to bits. Cherishes you, Appreciates you, Loves you.. etc etc etc.

But after 2 yrs of marriage, and what do you get? Boredom, simplicity, routine, and ... kids.
You no longer feel what you used to feel. The fireworks? Baby, it went down the drain the moment you said 'i do'.

Where did all the 'ngoi cheng' go? It fizzled off like carbon gas in an opened can of coca cola after 2 yrs.

On the other hand...

You've been with this good guy for the past 3 yrs. You've seen his best as well as his worst sides. You know him SO well, that it's getting a tad boring. You long for fireworks. You convince yourself that 'kam cheng is more than ngoi cheng'. You already are in this 'routine, sometimes boring' situation. But you know it's headed that way, that you're bound to walk down the aisle with this man..

You get married. You have kids. You are still in that boring cycle.

But you've already expected this from the beginning. No fireworks? Blah the passion, man. What i have here is what i've expected after 3 yrs of being with this guy. And i'm fucking happy.

Why?

Because he gives me comfort, security and love. Not those saucy, burning, sweaty love. Instead, you get the reassuring presence of a man you know you can fart in front of anytime. Anywhere.

After a while, i realize... though the 'kam cheng' is more than the 'ngoi cheng', i know... that even with a new guy (which may turn out to be a bastard in the end anyway) it'll happen all over again.

i'm with you, because i know you. and i know i can adore you the rest of your life (even though i know that i would be wishing for death when i give birth to your baby) O.0

and because, time does matter. Two more days and it'll be 2 yrs and 5 months babe.

*whistles*